How to Release Attachment to Outcomes & Embrace Joy in the Present Moment


As I write this, I must admit that it’s pretty late. I should probably be asleep, but I wanted to share an idea I’ve had lumbering around in my head for the last few days before it finally falls out of one of my ears. I have 3 simple questions for you, and I’d like you to answer as honestly as possible:

Have you ever felt like you weren’t doing enough? That, no matter how much you created, you could still do better? Have you ever had a feeling of quiet doom in the back of your mind?

I know I have, and the good news is, you’re definitely not alone. It seems to be pretty common among creative and intelligent types, and today we’re going to explore the antidote: non-attachment, a quality that I’ve found not only essential for travel but also helpful in every other area of my life, as well.

Are you attached to specifics?

More and more, I’ve been examining and reflecting on what I allow myself to actually care about. I’ve found that the more outcomes I allow myself to get attached to, the less happy I am. I’ve noticed that any time I get attached to a specific way something needs to happen (especially at a specific time), I’m actually constricting the universe around me. I’m saying to the universe, “I know best, and I want things to go *exactly* this way, otherwise I won’t be happy. Got it?”

I’m the only person who does this, right?

I wish… Call it human nature, destiny, whatever. We all do it. The trick is realizing when you’re doing it. After all, without awareness, no problems can be solved. (I think that’s why The Polyphonic Spree’s mythic story is about awareness, tragedy, and triumph. But that’s a story for another article.)

And as with many internal problems, a change of perspective is the first step. Over the last year or so, I came across an empowering question. The question, when asked, was like a splash of cold water on my face and made me feel a heck of a lot better about my life, especially when I was “doing the bad thing” and comparing myself to others. (Pro-tip: Nothing productive ever came out of this. Truly. Ask anyone who is happy in their work, and they’ll say the same.)

The Splash of Cold Water

The question is: If I knew I was going to die in 12 months, what would I let go, and what would I truly care about?

Asking questions like this helps me clarify what (and more importantly, who) is important to me.

This is also why I like being on the road for extended periods of time. It has the remarkable effect of reminding me where the magic is in life: the moment-to-moment connections between people. All of the magical moments I’ve ever experienced involved connections between people in some way. When you surround yourself with positive people that you truly enjoy spending time with, you can’t help but be connected with the infinite present moment. You can’t help but be happy. 🙂

So if the present moment is where joy can be found, is it any wonder why getting hung up on the future (or worse, the past) can be so nerve-wracking? How could it not? I dare you to prove me wrong. Go into the future and get something done.

Back yet?

Putting Happiness in the Future

We only have power in the present moment, and when we get attached to outcomes, we are putting our happiness somewhere in the future, which just doesn’t produce the results we want.

Next time you feel like if you don’t get XYZ done by whenever, ask yourself this: What if you were sick? Or dead? Would the world come to a grinding halt? Would someone be in critical danger, and if so, could someone be called in to replace you? That thing you need to get done may be important, but remember to keep perspective.

You are a cell in the human race. And while you may be a special flower (aren’t we all), you can take a break. The world existed before you and it will continue to spin long after you’re plant food.

The reality is that, whatever your beliefs may be, you’ve been given this magnificent gift: a lifetime on Earth. And isn’t one lifetime it a little too short to stress over the past or the future? When is a good time to start focusing on the present? When is a good time to stop focusing on what you can’t control and start focusing on the myriad of things you can?

Why not today? After all, it’s the only day you’ll ever really have.



The Truth Beyond the Sky is OUT: A Modern Myth of Galactic Proportions


The adventure changes today. For the better.

In his famous work, The Hero with a Thousand Faces, Joseph Campbell wrote that when stories are shortened to “bites,” all of the most profound symbolism (and therefore the deeper meanings and nourishments) are left out. And this is pretty sad, to be honest.

“A superficial story,” he writes, “colludes in supporting a mad culture that insists that human beings remain frazzled, ever on the run, rather than inviting them, by the telling of a compelling story at some length, to slow down, to know that it is alright to sit down now, that it is good to take rest, and to listen with one’s inner hearing to something that is energizing, engaging, instructive, and nourishing in one way or another.”

You see, over the last four years I have been keeping a secret from you: I have been hard at work on such a story, a story that would energize, instruct, enthrall, and hopefully even nourish you. Over the past year, I have realized that, at my core, I am not a “writer” in the traditional sense as much as I am a storyteller. And because of its unique qualities, I believe this story has the potential to expand the conversation around modern myths. At least, if we’re lucky.

A Modern Myth of Galactic Proportions

The Truth Beyond the Sky front coverThe practical upshot of all of this is that I have indeed written an SF novel, the completion of which is the culmination of years of research, plot refinement, writing, and revision. And revision. And more revision… until I felt it was right.

But perhaps even more important than its science fiction elements is the fact that it is an adventure story about loss and hope, courage and fear (and yes, even purpose), which is why as a reader of this site, I know you’ll LOVE it.

And on 12/12/12, I formally released it on the Amazon Kindle store. It’s called “The Truth Beyond the Sky,” and the 310-page paperback edition is pictured here.

Later, I found out that a happy accident had occurred, and that its particular shade of blue seems to magically change depending on the surrounding environment.

But let’s get to the gift I have for you, as a reader of this site.

My Gift to YOU

If you’ve been following along over at the Aravinda Publishing blog, you already know this, but in case not, I’ll bring you up to speed.

Throughout autumn, I had wanted to write a short story to give you a free taste of this incredible world, and now that it’s out (and getting 5 star reviews on Amazon), I feel really good that I was able to create a short story that not only provides a great jumping-off point into the book, but that is being called a great story in its own right.

That short story is called “The Secret Beneath the Ice,” and I’m releasing it for free over at Smashwords in ALL of the popular formats, as well as the Kindle store.

I know Amazon gives you the ability to read the first 5 or so chapters of the novel, but I feel that giving you a complete story with a clear beginning, middle, and end, gives you a better feel for my storytelling style. So feel free to grab the short story over at Smashwords or the Kindle Store.

UPDATE: you can now get it instantly just for signing up for my mailing list.

And if you enjoy it, I know you’ll love “The Truth Beyond the Sky.”

A Taste of What People Think

The story within this book has been fermenting within my soul for a long time, and I’m incredibly excited to finally share it. I’ve also decided to price the ebook of the novel very aggressively at $2.99 to reach as many people as possible. So if you have a Kindle or have an Amazon account (their Cloud reader works on almost anything with a web connection) and you like SF or Adventure stories, I suspect you’ll enjoy the ride.

After all, I’m already getting incredible reviews on Amazon. This reviewer, for example, really seemed to get it:

5 starsAwesome, an Epic Adventure! — 2012.12.16
What a great read! This has everything I could ask for in a space adventure.

The story begins with a young astronomer named Zahn on the planet Avani, who lost his mother years earlier when she mysteriously disappeared. Struggling with the loss, he manages to hold out hope that she is still alive somewhere. One day, an envoy named Oonak from the Confederation of Unity crash lands on Avani and, through an act of fate, crosses paths with Zahn. Oonak asks Zahn for assistance with an urgent mission, and that launches Zahn’s grand adventure through space and time, toward the truth of what happened to his mother, and into confrontation with a terrible galactic menace.

Without giving too much away, the plot only becomes more epic from that point forward. Story elements include jump gates, travel outside spacetime, explorations of alien worlds, Cthonic evil, high-tech gadgets, intelligent ships, a mythical device reminiscent of the Holy Grail, plenty of action and space battles, and some intriguing interpersonal dynamics between the four protagonists.

There are some strong spiritual overtones as well. I’m not exaggerating when I say that the underlying philosophy of the book, the mythos, shares much in common with the best of metaphysical literature. Readers of the Law of One books may find familiar the philosophical thread woven throughout “The Truth Beyond the Sky.” In my view, that makes this book a rare gem in the genre.

Overall, I found it an entertaining read with enjoyable characters and a colorful plot. The ending was satisfying, and turned out to only be the beginning, so I eagerly look forward to Crusoe’s upcoming sequels. Highly recommended.
~ T. Cox

It feels amazing to finally be sharing this story with the world. I know that much is uncertain in these strange times, but one thing is certain: everything is going to change now. I can feel it.

(Pretty eventful article for being article #250, wasn’t it? Funny coincidence.)