The Most Valuable Lesson I learned on Hawaii: Are you truly safe here?

Why do you attach your sense of well-being to stuff?

It’s an old question, certainly. And whenever I ask myself, I always come back to one thought: no matter how much material success I may have in this life, everything I see is temporary.

That certainly doesn’t stop us from attaching our sense of security to what we have attained, especially if it’s taken us a significant amount of time and/or effort to attain. Indeed, attaching our sense of safety to possessions is the epidemic of the modern age, at least in the Western world, where materialism is the status quo.

But when I think back on my time on the Big Island of Hawaii, I must admit that, even though I wasn’t making much money, I nonetheless felt quite secure in my lifestyle there.

And frankly, it began even before Hawaii, when I’d exposed myself to the unpredictabilities, risks, and rewards of long-term, solo travel. If you’ve been reading Byteful Travel for a few years, you’ve already read about many of my adventures, the risks and rewards of those experiences. Thankfully, such experiences were, on the whole, very enjoyable (not to mention provided me with plenty of growth-inducing stories that I share with you).

The Most Valuable Lesson

The point is, Hawaii taught me many valuable lessons, but as my time away from it increases, I’ve realized that perhaps the most valuable lesson of all was realizing the answer to that age old question: “Are you really safe here?”

Well, are you?

Kids playing in Mahana Bay green sand

Kids playing in Mahana Bay (The Famous Green-sand Beach)

I’ve observed so many people trying to create a sense of security through outward possessions and attainments. The work of the philosopher Alan Watts discusses this in detail — how we in the West are so attached to possessions and circumstances.

But circumstances change rapidly (especially on a volcanic island) and living there proved to be a crash-course in the non-permanence of all things. These days, possessions seem more like grains of sand on a beach to me. They flow in and out of my life at the perfect time.

I moved three times during my nearly 1.5 year stint on Hawaii. And yes, each time it was a little scary. Moving is never without stress. But I wasn’t alone.

Maybe it was because I’d cultivated good relationships, or maybe it was because (as I would like to believe) the Universe itself was looking out for me (probably both), but something always worked out. Even when I moved, a friend manifested in the right place in the right time to help me move the few possessions I had with her car.

If I can feel and experience as much (or more) joy and security than someone in a more traditional situation, then is the feeling of well-being and security directly connected to money at all? Many people turn money into their sole power source, but is that really true? Does the power come from the number or from the energy you bring to it? How many people do you know, who are outwardly successful, are also rather terrified at losing what they have gained?

Where does the true happiness lie? The truth is, when you align with love, you know that you are safe.

Are you really safe here?

How you answer the question defines the attitude of your entire life: all of your actions, your thoughts, and your beliefs.

As for me, I’ve experienced enough to know that I am safe here. What about you? How might your life change if you decided that you were at all times, safe, secure, and centered?

Possessions pass away; but love, contribution, and joy are eternal.

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5 Hard-Earned Tips for Hawaii Work-Trade (WWOOFing) that ensure Success

During my adventures on these Hawaiian Islands, I have witnessed some remarkably unconventional and intriguing ways of living—ways that aren’t nearly as common on Mainland USA.

The single most profound difference I’ve encountered on these islands is the social agreement known as Work-Trade. Before I came here, I’d never work-traded anywhere. Heck, I don’t think I’d even heard of it before, but it turned out to be the best way for me to live cheaply on the Big Island while I wrote my 2nd book. No joke.

If you’re not familiar, work-trade is a type of living situation where a person (i.e., a work-trader) does a certain type of work in exchange for lodging. This is especially common on Hawaii, where jobs can be scarce. But even beyond that, many people choose work trade for the community benefits it offers. Nowhere else in the world have I seen so many intentional communities thriving than on Hawaii, and many of my friends here believe that community living is the future (not to mention the past, too).

Before I came to Hawaii in April 2013, I thought work-trade would be a fantastic way to save money. After all, helping people with their technology in exchange for free rent, laundry, and internet service sounded like a stellar idea.

What I didn’t know at the time was how much of a growth catalyst this would be for me. I’d never lived in community before, and I was in for a bit of an adjustment. I’ve managed condense what I’ve learned into the five tips below, that, when applied, can highly improve your experience.

Five Wise Tips

  1. Be Totally Crystal Clear what your agreement is before you begin. If the agreement is 24 hours per week, please be sure of which days that entails, and exactly what that work will be. Some managers are more free-spirited than others and just want someone there to hold space, while others will micro-manage you. It’s up to you to clarify what is expected of you before you begin.
  2. Realize that agreements are up for negotiation as long as you keep an open ear and behave honorably. Some places will charge you a security deposit (or give it some other name), and I was able to cut the deposit of my first place in half by doing some extra work in exchange. Normally, this wouldn’t be a big deal, but in a place where jobs and clients can be tricky to find, saving a little extra cash is helpful.
  3. Run the Work Environment through your gut. Do you feel good about living on the same property with the person who will also be your boss? Having your manager also be your landlord is perhaps the largest mental shift associated with work-trade. Working with someone who you get along with is great in a job situation, but it’s just about mandatory when it comes to work trade. You will see that person most every day, so test for resonance before you agree to anything. If you get into an agreement with someone who simply doesn’t get you, anguish will result. However, if your manager understands what you have to offer, and you both do your part, a beautiful, highly-supportive relationship can result.
  4. Be sure you want to be part of that Community before you arrive. If the community is relatively transient, obviously you’d better be equanimous with unexpected personalities coming and going every few weeks. Do you resonate with the culture of the place? Do you enjoy the people there now? Have you noticed new people arriving that you also feel good about—or don’t? In a place with a high turnover rate, like a hostel, this is can be a double-edged sword. Know yourself.
  5. Be prepared to share Utilities like kitchen, laundry machine, and bathroom. If you haven’t had to do this before, it can be a bit of an adjustment, but usually the least of concerns, which is why I’ve placed it here at the end. If you are the kind of person who is interested in community in the first place, you will most likely adapt to this quickly.


Overwhelmingly Positive

Double Rainbow over Hana Bay, Maui

Overall, living in a various work-trade situations has been overwhelmingly positive for me. Once I adjusted, I found the work-trade situations on the Big Island to be intriguing and of a relatively low time commitment (usually less time than a part-time job).

If you’re able to land a place that really resonates with you, it can be the best decision you’ll ever make if you want to really delve deep into a place while travelling, especially in Hawaii. You’ll expose yourself to new growth experiences, many of which you can’t anticipate. Living in a community, no matter how small, has the effect of exposing elements of yourself that you can improve on, as well as revealing your greatest strengths.

A Final Word of Warning: Once you start doing this, it may be difficult to stop! When I started house-sitting in mid-2014 after living in community for over a year, I found the adjustment to living alone rather pleasant at first, but then I came to miss living in community. The social support to be found in community is powerful, even if it’s just one or two other people.

Even now as I write this, I am on the eastern side of Maui, typing inside one of the most terrific living rooms ever: a fully-enclosed geodesic dome, complete with couches and a guitars along the edge. My friend’s farm here in Hana is a wonderfully eclectic mix of sacred architecture, abundant fruit trees, and creative souls — not to mention a wonderful home base for my brief time here on Maui.

Seems I just can’t get away from community, can I? 😉

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